A Guide: The Dos and Don’ts at Our Events

1. Choose an event and register successfully

By this, we mean registering with the correct details and completing payment. It sounds simple, but people often make typos in their email addresses—which is vital for us to get in touch with you!

2. Leave your friends at home

You can see them another time (ideally for a coffee after our event to dish the details!). You don't need them for "moral support" here—you're not going for wisdom tooth surgery; you're going to spend an interesting afternoon or evening with new people. Besides, you already know your friends! Our friendly and empathetic organisers will be there to support you, and you can turn to them for absolutely anything.

3. What to wear?

If specific gear is required (climbing kit, a tuxedo, etc. :-)), we state it directly in the event description and remind you in the instructions we email two days beforehand. For most events, however, standard comfortable clothes that make you look and feel good are perfect. You want to make a good impression, so give your outfit a little thought—and don't forget to bring a positive attitude!

4. Actually show up

The secret to success is signing up and then actually turning up! We have absences at almost every event, and it's a real shame. We understand illness or serious personal reasons, but try to schedule things like work overtime for another day. Remember, you're coming to see us because you want to find a partner—if you don't make time for the search, will you have space for the partner?

5. Be on time

Check the location on the map in advance (we send this in the instructions) and make sure you know how to get there. We won't bite if you're late, but it's an awkward delay for the start of the event and disruptive for both the organisers and the other participants. It doesn't exactly put you in the best light, either... so let's sync our watches!

The ideal arrival time is 10 minutes before the start. Any earlier isn't necessary as we are usually busy with final details. If you arrive 30 minutes early out of pure excitement, we might just send you for a quick walk!

6. Be in the "here and now"

You've made it on time and in a good mood. The hardest part is behind you and the best is yet to come! Forget about today's stresses or tomorrow's to-do list and just have fun. The programme is ready for you, so get involved and enjoy yourself!

7. Communicate

Share what you feel comfortable with, but remember that everyone is unique and interesting—including you! So, sell yourself. Phrases like "I'm an IT guy and I just code from morning till night" won't exactly dazzle anyone. Try a different angle.

What do you do when you aren't working? What drives you? What have you been wanting to try for ages? This reveals much more about you and helps others get to know the real you. Focus on others as much as yourself—keep an open mind and an open heart.

8. Think about who you'd like to see again

As the event winds down, you'll need to decide who you'd like to get in touch with. This can even be someone of the same sex—we know of several great new friendships that started at our events!

9. Fill out the feedback form correctly

At the end of the event, you'll receive a feedback form where you can request the contact details of those you'd like to meet again. Be specific with names. If the feeling is mutual, we will exchange your contact details for you.

10. I've got a match—now what?

Congratulations! It's a match, and that person wants to see you again. Don't hesitate—meet up as soon as possible! Anyone can make the first move, but gents... don't keep the lady waiting!