Martin
A Lack of Time for (Finding) a Partner
"I don't actually even have time for a new partner! I'm constantly on the go—a demanding job that fulfils me and where I'm doing well, hobbies I don't want to give up, established habits and routines that are already part of my life... Honestly, I'm quite happy like this right now."
Perhaps you recognise yourself in some of that. We often make excuses about a lack of time and use it as an argument for why we don't have something or aren't doing something... But it's not actually about time at all—which we all have the same amount of—it’s about priorities.
If we truly want something, we simply make time for it. Period. No "BUTS." You either want it, or you don't. If I hesitate, if I'm unsure, or if I prefer something else, then that thing just isn't a priority for me yet.
If I'm not trying to find a solution, a compromise, or a concession, I'm just not there yet—and that is perfectly okay. It isn't written anywhere that we all have to have the same priorities at the same time (or at the same age). We are all individuals, navigating life at our own pace.
The moment that proverbial "pebble in your shoe" starts to pinch and bother you enough that you change your priorities, suddenly there will be plenty of time. So, don't pressure yourself or others; give yourself "time" and let things flow. Honestly admit (at least to yourself) that it isn't about time, but that you simply don't feel ready yet. And when you are ready, get into action!
